Do NOT fall into that trap. You will only become disappointed and hurt : (.
Most of us want and desire the approval and acceptance of others. I know I do at times. I bet a lot of us have fallen into this trap. Plus, ;et’s be honest, deep down we all want to be accepted and liked and we want to hear that we are accepted and liked by others. But we also know that, that desire can be an unhealthy one.
To often I see people being pressured to change just to make someone else happy. That isn’t fair nor is it healthy I would argue.
Think about this. How often have you prepared a major project for work or maybe even just took the time out of your day to make a simple meal for your loved one and your major motivation in doing so was to get the approval of someone else or make them happy? Then after you went through all that effort into whatever it was, you didn’t even get a job well done spoken to you.
My guess is it made you feel, sad 🙁 , maybe even rightfully so.
Here’s the thing, I want to challenge you to change your mindset. If you’re doing something merely to appease someone else it won’t last and it will drive you crazy in the process. Your entire day, if not your entire life will be a constant roller coaster. If you do get a positive response you are on cloud nine, then if you do or say thing wrong and you come crashing down. This is not a healthy way to live!
Make sure your motivation for change is driven by YOU, not someone else. If you want to chance, if you want to lose weight, then do it for…YOU!
You don’t need the approval of others, although it is nice to hear. You should have started on your fitness journey for you. You should be on this journey to make yourself fitter or healthier, maybe to lose weight and in most cases to help you feel more confident. No one else can put in the work except for you. As such, you are the only one whose approval matters!
If you are putting in the work and doing it for you, keeping fighting!
All that being said, encouragement is powerful. Who can you encourage today?
Now go be awesome because YOU are worth it!
KELLEN LAKE – I am proud of you : )
PS – Quote from Bruce Lee – “I’m not this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine.”